Before we begin…
How comfortable are you with what you don’t know? Are you the kind of person who seeks as many facts as possible when confronted with a problem or a decision? Do you love it or hate it when an author finishes a book with an open ending or unanswered questions? Have you ever sought or discovered information only to find that you wished it had remained buried?
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I stumbled into Ruth Ozeki’s A Tale for The Time Being this week and can’t really climb out even though I turned the last page on Monday night. The very next day I picked it up again and read the appendices, then the acknowledgments, then the last pages again, then some of the pages I’d marked. I have had a difficult time letting go of this story and all that it has made me think about: the nature of time, the possibilities of many worlds in which we are living different lives than the one we are aware of now, Schroedinger’s cat, relationships that exist across time and space, the impossibility of capturing a moment and turning it into words that will convey everything one wants to say. Most pressingly, I am wondering what happened to the girl at the heart of this beautiful, layered novel.
No matter how many times I have dipped back into the book, I emerge with the same uncertainty. I don’t know. I can’t know. I still want to know. I wonder all over again how to coexist with not knowing, which is a much larger question than knowing exactly what happened to the characters in this beautiful novel.
This desire to know has been strong all my life. I like specifics. When a friend once went into a gas station to ask directions, I grilled him unmercifully when I sensed holes in his version. “What exactly did they say?” I asked.
Knowing was a kind of tool or armor. I saw how the kids who knew more than I did were treated by teachers and parents. When I listened to my parents fight, I wanted to understand more about why they were unhappy which in my hopeful heart was the key to fixing it. Every job I’ve had has involved learning about something I do not know and explaining it along with the implications to others. This skill has served me well in my working life. In my personal life, not so much.
Turns out, kids are not meant to fix their parents or anyone, for that matter, and the thrill of being confided in by an adult soon turns to a weight that feels impossible to carry. Similarly, indulging my curiosity about the partners of the men I fell in love with as a young person, usually backfired, leaving me wishing I’d never asked.
Much later in life and only after making mistake after mistake, I’ve finally learned that my need to know is not necessarily echoed among family and friends when it comes to politics, health concerns, or what they should do about their relationships. When it comes to health, for example, my own response to a diagnosis is to research every fact I can find so that I understand all the treatment options, possible outcomes and their likelihood. I want to know enough to speak the language the doctor will use when they talk to me, to be prepared to make decisions. I cling to the idea that this would make a difference in how things go for me. I assume that others share my desire to know, to be armed.
They do not. Or, at the very least, that is not what they want from me. They can do their own research - as much or as little as they want. They want me to be a friend, to support whatever decisions they make, to trust them to absorb and use information in the way that makes sense for them. They want me to sit with them and love them in the face of uncertainty because it is already clear to them what should always have been clear to me: no amount of knowledge replaces the need for a hand to hold in the darkness.
Novels are another matter. I do love novels that challenge me, that make me think but I especially love novels that give me what I cannot have in real life: a sense of order, a logic that flows from a beginning to an end, happy or sad, that makes sense. Ozeki’s novel did not give me a resolution that allowed me to close the book and walk away. Instead, it offered me a set of possible outcomes, each of which are equally possible depending on what we believe about time, space, and relationships. As a result I am still in the thrall of this story. I am still thinking about its people and the possibilities. It is both deeply satisfying and deeply unsettling.
On the surface, A Tale for The Time Being is a simple enough story. A plastic bag with a diary and other fragments of a young Japanese girl’s life wash up on the shores of a remote island in British Columbia. The protagonist, Ruth, opens it and finds a diary addressed, it would seem, to her. Or not. The writer, a sixteen-year-old girl named Nao, can’t know who would ever read it or if anyone ever would. The bag may or may not have been sucked into the ocean by the 2011 tsunami at Fukushima. The diary creates a connection between the two women and Ruth becomes obsessed with learning about Nao, her family, and her story. Ruth can never be sure how Nao’s life turned out, just as she will never know how the bag with its contents arrived on the shores of her home. Time and again, she must grapple with all she does not and cannot know.
We get invested too. It is impossible to read Nao’s diary with Ruth and not want to know how her story ends. She is a tough, vulnerable, funny, insightful, angry, hurt kid who is brutally hazed as an outsider by her Japanese schoolmates and let down by her parents, particularly her father who attempts suicide multiple times. She is also the great-granddaughter of a very old nun, Jiko, who awakens in Nao a sense of herself and offers her a path to survival. We and Ruth follow her to the mountain, not far from Fukushima, to the temple where Jiko lives and Nao learns about her father’s uncle, a student of philosophy who died at 19 after being trained as a kamikaze pilot in the waning days of World War II.
Ruth comes to understand that Nao believes her uncle died a hero of sorts. An honorable man. Yet, hidden in the pages of another booklet contained in the plastic bag containing Nao’s diary, is the story of what Nao’s uncle actually planned to do when he took control of his plane. Now, Ruth has information that Nao does not and could make a difference in what steps she takes next, even whether she chooses to live or die.
Ruth is so immersed in Nao’s story that she wants to save her, help her even though the story she is relating in the diary’s pages happened years earlier. Nao, if alive at the time when Ruth finds the diary, would be in her mid-to-late twenties. This leads to some magical moments involving magical realism in the final quarter of the book in which Ruth may or may not have time-traveled and altered the course of events for Nao. She can never be certain, just as she can never be certain if Nao was caught up in the tsunami or how the plastic bag found its way to her and not someone else. Instead, we are left with the fact that, across the impossibilities of time and space, a relationship has been forged, and the idea that not knowing may mean that all things remain possible. It is this not-knowing, Nao’s ancient great-grandmother says, that is the “most intimate way” to exist with another soul.
This synopsis does little justice to the story Ozeki has written which skillfully weaves questions of philosophy, quantum mechanics, ethics, climate trends, and societal expectations with the hopes, fears, and dreams of human beings grappling with life, death, and the more mundane aspects of getting through a day. It is a beautiful page-turner of a book whose greatest strength may lie in the questions it poses and its willingness to deprive its characters and its readers of complete certainty.
This book found its way onto my TBR list when I read about it in last year’s comments. Thank you to all who suggested it. If anyone would like to talk about this book with me, I’m here for it!!!! Let’s start with the comments and see where we go.
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The line that lingers…
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I'll have to check this book out. I loved The Book of Form and Emptiness, which is very much a meditation on the nature of things and objects. Also, congrats on 1,000 subscribers!
Congrats on hitting 1,000 subscribers! Very well deserved.