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I am one of many that can't remember most books I read not long after I close the book. The few books I do remember more things about are books that moved me in some way or are my 5 star reads. The upside of this is that I can re-read a book several years later and it seems like a new book. This has always been this way for me, it's not just a sign of getting older. :)

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Reading a book over again and finding it new seems like a

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Let me try again! What I was going to say was how clever to give yourself this gift of reading anew each time :)

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My reading and books are too sacred to stress over remembering them. Unless for school reading requirements, I give myself grace to forget. I think we are overloaded with information and our "file cabinet brains" are over stuffed and the drawers are jammed. Your writing is remembered by me just as being beautiful, truthful and worth reading. Hope that counts!

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Well, what can I say to that except THANK YOU and yes, always, to giving ourselves a bit of grace.

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I have a cabinet just for the paperbacks I’ve bought twice. And I keep a master list of books read and listened to. But I like to reread too, and with some special books, I read and listen to the audio version.

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I've wanted to do this to see if reading and listening at the same time changes how I experience the book and, perhaps, retain those special moments a bit better.

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I don't know where I'd be without my journal. Enjoy your week off, Betsy!

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‘Each book on my shelf has a story to go with it’ you say. That, Beth, is more interesting than a list of books. I suspect I would almost certainly enjoy a podcast of you working your way, unscripted, along one of your bookshelves. Every now and again we would hear you frantically turning pages in search of a sentence or paragraph you would like to share. Telling of how a book found a place in your home, perhaps loaned to you by a forgotten friend, never to be returned. I could go on. Like Gayla, I rediscover books by chance and when I do it’s like spending time with someone I haven’t seen in years and all the more enjoyable for that. Regards Robert.

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What an interesting idea, Robert!

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I forget some books and not others, no idea why. Not necessarily the best books, either. I sure remember Bel Canto!

I love rereading good books, so that's fortunate.

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Me too. I reread certain books every year or when the urge/need strikes. They are like old friends.

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Jun 25, 2022Liked by Elizabeth Marro

Of course I forget books (and tv series and movies), that's why I started keeping lists of books read for each year. In the beginning I just listed the books in order to stop buying them over and over. Then I found that even though the book was listed, I didn't remember what I liked about it. So my list changed to include a brief review of every book. (I add those reviews to goodreads too).

For years I have kept email messages in folders in my Mail app to help me remember things. Folders for certain people, a folder for Friends without their own folder, folders for every email group I'm in, folders to remind me who I used for services (housing, gardening, auto, insurance, et al). But last week my laptop crashed and died. Those email folders are not retrievable (according to data retrieval specialist). This makes me very sad. It also teaches me to keep records in retrievable data formats.

I'm still not quite up to snuff. I had to order an external hard drive in order to be able to have everything I had before on my new-to-me laptop. It should arrive tomorrow. Just a few minutes ago I was able to set up my email accounts on Mail on my new laptop.

I guess the good news is I don't even know what all I've lost.

xo

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I shuddered when I read this. In fact, I have notes for an essay on what it is like to lose data in one big heap like that. I have had two hard-drive disasters in the past and now rely regularly on an external hard drive and also, with certain files, online locations like dropbox.

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Yes, it is kind of a nightmare. I'm in the denial phase re all the data lost. I'm still waiting for the external hard drive to arrive so I can begin to rebuild my writing life.

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I finish so few books. And I mean very few books, probably 80%. Reading is hard for me and not entertainment. I get bored so fast unless there's something that catches me, and it's not action . . . Maybe the Voice. I think it's the Voice that leads me into the story and keeps me there. A distinctive Voice. The ones I do finish, I remember. And I have a small canon I go back and read again and again. I underline passages and write notes in the margins. Most of them are older, but not all.

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I'm curious to know some of the gooks on the list of those you keep going back to or remember.

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Funny you should ask, Betsy. I had a small list in my original comment but deleted it. Here are some:

- The Power and the Glory

- Damage

- The Seed and the Sower

- Wise Blood

- Underworld

- Memoirs of Hadrian

- Moby Dick (poor old Moby Dick)

- The Magic Mountain

- The Magus

Nothing contemporary . . . Not good on my part. There are many fine contemporary stories maybe I'm just not giving a chance. Says more about me than them.

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Thanks for this. Now I don't feel so alone and yes, even embarrassed that I can't remember plots, characters and in some cases whether I've even read a certain book or not. I do keep a commonplace book though, where I jot down quotes or images or things I want to note as I read. In fact, I have these little notebooks all over the house and always carry one with me. Fun and interesting to page through them every so often, to see what I noticed as I read.

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I've read that going over commonplace books from time to time can provide some interesting insights to our thoughts and what was important to us at a particular time. I wonder if what you noticed then would make the same impression if you were to come upon the source of the quotes now.

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I expect maybe a memory of then, but influenced by the now of life's effects since I wrote it. I'll check in with some of the random commonplace books in my apartment and give a report.

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